Why Traditional Marriage Counseling Is NOT Working How It Should
"The Solution To Saving A Marriage Is NOT Marriage Counseling, Here’s Why…"
Date: Monday, 8th 2020 (The day your marriage takes a turn for the best!)
Meet John & Kim…
When I was introduced to Kim, her and her husband John were on the path to divorce.
Literally, on their way to get divorce proceedings underway.
It was a chance meeting!
It was falling apart more and more despite several attempts at patching things up... which always ended in what seemed like an even bigger problem between them!
It had been a very long time that either felt like they mattered in the relationship and admittedly they had been keeping it together (barely) for their children’s sake....
Can You Relate To This Kind of Situation?
or in the spare room.
Small things turned to silly arguments which quickly became bigger issues.
Tension, arguing and shouting had become normal occurrences.
Both John & Kim were desperately seeking to be cherished and loved, neither felt like they were getting the love they badly desired
The more that they tried to express this to each other the less they felt it and the distance between them just increased... more and more.
Everything they had tried to remedy their marriage in the form of counseling and self-help literature had done NOTHING to help them.
A drastic change was needed in their relationship but neither knew how to achieve that.
Their relationship was stuck in a serious and harmful rut and neither could see the way to fix it.
I am not about to sit here and say I was able to undo years of old, painful arguments and resentment in one single day, because that is certainly not the case...
BUT
what I shared with this desperate couple that day, prompted them to instantly press pause on the divorce.
In A Few Weeks, There Were Remarkable Changes Visible In Their Marriage...
- The small-things-turned-to-big-issue arguments had stopped.. VANISHED!!
- The nights spent sleeping on the couch or in the spare room were a thing of the past
- There was no ripping into each other with name-calling or viciousness
- The complete lack of physical intimacy had been replaced by sincere pleasure and renewed PASSION.
- Pretty amazing right?
Last Week, I Was Invited To John & Kim’s Vow Renewal Ceremony!!
They have likely received their traditional therapy training and simply added marriage counseling to their list of services offered...
most likely after the fact too! (not a nice thought)
What I’m saying is that the level of experience these people have in truly helping a marriage on the brink of divorce, is little to none...
And when they are offering this service, their tactics and techniques are more than likely outdated and simply no longer effective
because these same techniques were simply never created to help a marriage in serious confusion!
That’s Why Even The ‘Best’ Marriage Counselors only enjoy such a marginally low success rate of around 20%... Imagine If We Held Medical Procedures To The Same Standards… It Wouldn’t Be Legal!
All I ever want is to help my clients and help them save their marriages but all the techniques that were supposed to be helping me help them, were only making things so much worse!
Once I discovered that those usual methods for marriage therapy were not working, I was convinced I could find and create a new way of saving marriages.
A set of tools that actually did good.
I released all the ‘traditional’ theories and techniques as they simply DON'T WORK!
And why you need to do the exact same!
Take A Look At This Video Below About How Detrimental To Your Marriage, ‘Marital Counseling’, Can Actually Be!
Before You’re Able To Start This Heartfelt Mission To Save Your Marriage, It’s Important That You Stop Believing The Most Damaging Untrue Statements About Saving Your Marriage
Name: Sarah
Location: Dubai
4 Of The Most Damaging Untrue Statements About Saving Your Relationship…
Do You Think Any Of These Statements Are True?
You May Be Communicating, But You Need
To Learn Better Ways To Communicate
Learning what effective communication is, will only enable you to
fight with your partner, more effectively!
In some instances, these ‘improved’ skills of communication
are more damaging than helpful.
There Is Only 'One Way' To Fix Your Marriage
I have learnt there are infinite ways and each
way needs to be given the attention it deserves.
Tools that may be handy at one area of the process,
can often hinder another point in the process.
There is, in fact, a unique way to deal with each way
that helps to work towards healing your marriage.
These ways are tried and tested and have been working
for many couples I have worked with over the years.
With my help, you will be able to identify where the problem areas
are in each area of your marriage and pinpointing them as such will
help you to be better prepared and ultimately able to begin the process of healing.
Unless Your partner is as invested as you are,
the healing of your marriage cannot start
When the situation is bad, sometimes it can take a bit longer for your partner to come to the table.
However, this does not mean that you cannot set the wheels in motion yourself.
And it does not mean your marriage is not able to be fixed.
The processes and techniques I use are successful...even if your partner has given up already because you will be learning how to make any negative energy in your marriage work for your marriage instead of destructively working against it.
Time is the greatest healer
From my experience, couples who keep ‘putting things off’ are the ones who
think stuff will get worked out on its own, over time.
But this is never, if ever, the case and deep down, you already know that which
is why you are here on this page because you are ready
to take a proactive approach to this situation!
Because if you are not willing to make these changes and take
the necessary steps to fixing things, all that negativity is sure to bring your relationship
down substantially, and before you know it, it may be too late to do anything about it.
It’s crucial that you put the wheels in motion to start working on
saving your marriage right away… before things get completely out of control
and it is too late for any kind of repair!
Thanks Nicola, your program changed our lives"
Name: Linda
Anybody Can Successfully Turn Their Relationship Around!...
Even If You're The Only One Trying!
My techniques can help you turn your relationship around, even transform it - however impossible you may think it is or even if you are the only one willing to try it… for now!
My usual client base are those whose partners have already long given up and they are the ones pushing to salvage the relationship still.
This is why marriage counseling is not the right cure for this situation because most therapists believe that when there is only one partner who is willing to fix the relationship, that it will be impossible.
They work off the assumption that both partners have to be ready and willing… this is not the case!
For me, I see marriage crisis like this and believe that when one partner changes, then the other partner will do the same!
Surprisingly, this is why I have close to a 90% SUCCESS RATE...even if only one partner starts the healing process!
Start The Transformation Now
With These 4 Steps:
Shift Your Thinking So That You Create A Loving & Happy Marriage
Let Go Of Past Resentments & Arguments, your negative
spiral of Doubts and Despair.
Create a Joyful Environment
for Your Marriage.
Learn to Motivate Your Spouse To Change The Way They Treat You and Create Love Appreciation, Desire and Respect For Each Other.
Create a Shared Vision, Goals and Purpose For Staying Together - That You're BOTH Excited About So that the Changes Last a Life-Time Rather Than a Few Weeks or Months.
For John & Kim, It was Kim who got the wheels in motion. By finding me online, Joining The Empowered Love Formula Program and starting the healing process of her marriage… alone.
After a short while, John was insisting less on the whole divorce route, but still figured it was the only option the couple had left.
Eventually, he agreed to accompany Kim to come and spend one hour with me, leaving the divorce lawyers waiting!
I’m guessing, right about now you are wondering when saving the marriage is actually impossible?
Life After Just About Every
Issue They Go Through...
Be It Adultery, Financial Crisis, Midlife Crisis & Whatever Else Can Get In The Way
With every couple I continue to help, there is always one common outcome that seems to make itself present:
relationships can and do come back from the brink of just about any destruction.
These couples have also not just avoided the dreaded divorce process but breathed life back into their relationships…
experiencing a Completely Transformed relationship than they've ever Felt…
something they once thought was impossible.
Anatomy Of A Marriage In Crisis
The lack of knowing how to do something inside your marriage often translates into not caring to do it by the partner who is not satisfied.
This also seems to act like the proof that this partner often seeks (that the marriage is now over)
Neglect is often the biggest killer of marriages and this can sometimes simply be life and its challenges that collide with the marriage, forcing the marriage to lose the crucial attention it needs.
Sadly, the marriage also changes dynamic from that of being ignored to an increasing animosity between the partners.
When couples celebrate their wedding day, the last thing they are expecting is for the marriage to be a failure.
And when people rank their priorities in life, marriage always seems to be in the top 3 or 4 on that list.
But, the problem is that life tends to take over and research has even shown that some partners can spend less than 4 minutes in a day communicating about topics that are not related to children and schedules.
Does this sound familiar to you?
As this indifference sets in, the severe lack of attention that the relationship is being shown starts to consume the relationship and begins to prevent the couple from having the ability to form and hold a worthwhile relationship.
It’s not long after this, that there is a distinct lack of connection between the two which can very easily open the door for things like adultery and other marriage killers.
Soon after this, one partner (at least) is convinced that this marriage is practically over.
If Someone Gave Me A Dollar Each Time I’ve Heard Someone Tell Me They Were Bamboozled By Their Spouse Asking For A Divorce...
The issues and the problems are a collective accumulation which takes place over a period of time.
It usually happens that one of the partners does not even realize there are problems and are taken by surprise (and shock) by their partner springing divorce on them while the other partner reasons they are tired of trying with no reciprocation or response and has now given up.
When one partner is trying so hard to effect change within the marriage while the other partner is trying so hard to keep things exactly as is, that is usually when the most amount of harm is inflicted on the relationship.
More often than not, the partner looking for the change will become more and more aggravated by the lack of change or persistence of the partner to keep things the way they are.
It is because of this dynamic that, more often than not, leads to the one partner giving up and deciding it’s over while the other one is left surprised and confused as to why there is even a problem warranting such a drastic step in the first place.
towards pushing to divorce.
The Crisis Stages
However, I have realized that you are actually able to use this point to forge a new path back to a healthy marriage space.
Other programs out there focus on this return to happiness as a single issue.
But I believe there are 8 specific crisis stages and each needs to be given its share of attention in a completely different way.
There is no ‘one size fits all’ approach.
What can be helpful and resolve an issue in one stage may be completely counterproductive in another stage.
What I have done is make sure each stage has a separate and unique path in dealing with the problems.
You Are Getting A Tried-And-Tested Successful Ways That Work And Have Been Working For Clients Over and Over...For The Past 7 Years!
You can actually do the right action at a wrong moment and land up causing even more damage.
That’s why you need to be able to identify PRECISELY which stage you are in because only once you have done this you'll be able to begin the healing.
If not, you are likely to cause more (possibly) irreparable damage.
A marriage can fall to pieces in many many ways.
But, the road to recovery is foreseeable.
A marriage on the rocks can only heal in one, par-for-the-course way… there is only one route back to healing.
The particular steps taken to get to that outcome can vary (depending on what stage of crisis you are in) but the actual route taken is the same.
Think of a map and imagine all the different routes that you can take to get to one particular destination.
Some are longer, some more direct, some quicker, none are the same two routes but they all lead to the desired destination.
It is up to you to find a path that leads you to that outcome of marriage revitalisation!
This is where I put all the emphasis in my work… The route back
It is not enough to rewind the relationship back to the place it was.
Partners can’t return to where they were prior to the marriage encountering its problems because for it to be in this place now, the marriage was clearly showing signs of a crisis back then already.
What needs to happen instead of taking it back is that the marriage needs to get to a place where it is shielded from any future form of crisis.
Describing your marriage as ‘average’ is really not good enough…
you should always be aiming (and want) an extraordinary marriage!
It’s not about making sure you do not get a divorce… it’s about forging the marriage you’ve always dreamed of!
No one should want or accept an indifferent marriage relationship.
Many couples think that their marriage issues are because they are not meant to have an exceptional marriage, but rather an ‘average’ one.
This could not be more untrue because no one should have to or need to believe they need to ‘settle’ for a less-than-great marriage relationship!
From my finding, your current
marriage obstacle can be
the turning point for “a new beginning” that will make your marriage even stronger… better than it has ever felt.
I will not be happy until as many couples as possible are getting everything out of their marriages they always dreamt of getting.
Healing to an average position is simply not enough for me.
I have been fortunate enough to assist hundreds of couples in regenerating their relationships
and...
I'll continue helping thousands more get the marriages they always wanted!
It is for this reason I recently decided to formulate a unique step by step marriage transformation system!
It's called...
The Empowered Love Formula!
Unlike The The Empowered Love Formula Program, most of these supposed guides are in fact compiled by non-existent personas hiding behind pretty pictures.
I am a real, live human being that you can actually get in touch with!! (check out the bottom of the page for details).
And, the guides which are written by qualified professionals, are mostly based on outdated traditional theories that do not achieve more than 20% success rates...
I felt like I had the duty of sharing the impactful, unique secrets I had discovered on my journey of helping couples
The truth is, you may not have the opportunity to come and see me face-to-face.
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Don’t just take my word
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At first, my husband was reluctant because he has no free time but we both knew something had to change. We looked at the Audio Set and decided that we would start here as it worked for his busy schedule and was such a reasonable price. The information about how to Protecting Your Marriage from Angry Outbursts and Angry Silences helped my husband control his anger by channelling it in different ways and also helped me to let go of past hurt for good. Things have been going great since we made the commitment to implementing the 10 key principles as Nicola describes in the audios. We've become closer, laugh and chat again like we did when we first met!
Thank you Nicola!"
Name: Anna
Location: Surrey, London
Just Some Of The Things You Will Learn…
- The mistakes people tend to make when a crisis rears its head.
- The “genuine” untold secrets to a healthy, stable, loving marriage.
- How to monitor and assess the stage of your marriage crisis.
- How to tackle any stage of a crisis and turn the situation around.
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Why ‘working hard’ on your relationship isn’t always the solution.
- How embarking on marriage counseling can be a danger to your relationship and its future.
- Why ‘low mood therapy’ is not the route to take but how ‘high mood relation’ can make all the difference in your relationship.
- The guide to not getting caught up in the emotion but learning to take action!
- How to find the true north of your relationship and why this is so important to do.
- That being truly intimate is a great deal closer than you realise and how to achieve it!
- What the ‘Elements of Communication’ are, why they are important and how they will transform your marriage!
- How to get the momentum of the relationship going in the right way, sometimes even with instant effect!
- About the practice of marriage and how they can help reshape your marriage.
- Why bickering and fighting is a complete time waster and the incredible simple way to get around it.
- How to become and act like a proper team, even when it feels like you are polar opposites.
- How the concept of ‘power’ within the confines of a relationship are so dangerous and what to do to make sure this does not become an issue.
- The things you need to be doing to handle problems relating to sex and/or money.
- Why feelings of anger and bitterness are so detrimental to a relationship and how to make sure this does not do any damage.
- How to change perspectives within the relationship to shift your relationship from average to exceptional.
- How you can get to working on saving your marriage within the hour, perhaps even under 15 minutes!
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Very basically, how to get the marriage you have always dreamt about having, to become YOUR reality.
The Powerful Empowered Love Formula Program comprises modules that will assist you on your marriage Revitalisation Transformation journey
no matter what time it is where you are!
Your purchase is completely private and will be accessible on your computer once you download it in under 2 minutes!
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The longer it takes you to take action against the perils in your marriage, the smaller chance you have of saving it.
You see, a relationship in crisis like that is not a static occurrence which means that just because they are not getting better, it means they are getting worse.
You need to take the appropriate action against this, quickly!
Think about it along these lines:
The cost of one hour of therapy is roughly $60 to $150 (multiplied by 100, being the number of sessions you may undertake over the next year or two) and you are looking at a cost of between $6,000 to $15,000 to rescue your marriage!
Or, the average cost of divorce (around $30,000) not forgetting the continuous losses & emotional turmoil and then maybe even some MORE therapy…
But the cost of being in an extraordinary, healthy, HAPPY marriage?
PRICELESS!!!
If I had continued down the path I was on I would have left the marriage, my family, friends, and community due to the embarrassment.
The thing about Nicola is that she is warm, kind, understanding, compassionate, and creates a safe environment to share your most personal and guarded challenges.
The privacy to have the skype calls from your home or car, also were a great comfort to me.
My biggest insight or lesson learned during our coaching was how I can live a life by design, and instead of dragging myself down by the things that frustrate me. I started the program alone and my wife joined me a few months later, it was great to start to see changes in her.
I'd recommend Nicola to anyone who is looking to take control of their life and relationship. In the free consultation, I knew instantly she could help me. Even before that her podcasts helped me so much!"
Name: Avrohom G.
Location: Spring Valley, New York
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in The 6-Week Empowered Love Formula System:
Empowered Love Foundation
Your relationship reflects back to you in the way you believe, think and feel about yourself, your relationship and your partner.
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Be prepared to learn deep, life-changing yet profoundly simple ideals.
Removing The Blocks To Love
In this section, you will be introduced to the concept of, when we feel disconnected from love we do not have love within for ourselves, we feel something is missing and we don't feel whole.
You will also learn that this wholeness you search for cannot be found in anyone or something else. Connecting to the love inside us is the start to finding wholeness and in turn removing the blocks to love and stopping things like angry and over emotional outbursts that can get the better of us, or destroy the respect that others have for us or that we have for others.
Stop the feelings of helplessness or that it is out of your hands and see your relationship get its life back!
Clearing For Deeper Love
It is essential to address our negative thoughts and limiting beliefs so that they do not create the corresponding reality for us.
Understanding what blocks us from our deepest form of love (both giving and receiving) is an imperative journey on your road to Empowered Love.
Changing your thought processes around your beliefs can and will have a lasting impact on yourself and your relationship.
Learn to question your negative thoughts and change your thinking to have a renewed outlook on your beliefs and how you feel about your partner!
Awaken Love Energy
Part 1
When you are angry at someone, you are the one that suffers and this section is dedicated to letting go of that low energy vibe and welcoming love back into your heart.
Focus on acknowledging the pain and moving beyond it because when you are love, you welcome the love into your life.
Learn how to awaken your love energy and let go of all that negative self-harm.
Awaken Love Energy
Part 2
If you don't honor and express the aspects of who you really are it can make you feel completely off-balance.
The truth is we all have many sides to us and it is important to recognize them and embrace them so that we can feel whole.
It is in that wholeness that you will then be able to be and give love.
The more you are able to feel the right kind of energy, the more you can radiate that and this section is all about creating that wonderful energy and bringing that into your marriage.
Using Your Love Energy
This section deals with a critical concept known as the 'Fear-Shame' dynamic and its understanding will put a whole new perspective on your love energy and what you radiate.
Identifying our emotional needs is only part of the process, learning how to use them is the other key action and this section is designed to do just that.
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Tom: "After seeing the changes in Lisa, I became curious and thought I'd at least have a session with Nicola. I liked her no-nonsense approach and the fact that we didn't have to drag up the past. It was clear the program was forward-focused, looking at the future which I agree with and so it suited me"
So, To Recap -
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I don't need to convince you how important your marriage is...
But, if you are really ready to take action in your marriage then I can help you with the tools to do that!
Take action and take back your marriage, starting TODAY!
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Dear Nicola, I really can't thank you enough for the wisdom, support and guidance your audio set has provided.
My year started off with my husband wanting a divorce and now we are happily married and looking forward to what our future has instore for us.
It has been an amazing learning experience and even my husband listened and implemented the 10 key principles. I truly believe if I had not started with your steps I would no longer have a marriage but I do.
Thank you!!
- Julie
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Unlike other relationships experts who come from a psycho analytical, text book background, for me, saving marriage stems from my very own personal experience.
When I was 14 years old, my parents decided to get a divorce after many years of dealing with a volatile marriage. The constant anger and resentment made it unbearable for them to get past their issues and resolve their marriage.
Conflict, poor communication and a strong of affairs finally led to their marriage ending. It was a very deep and personal loss for me as a young adult.
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